My friend thinks I lose my handle very easily in a discussion. That I lose the thread and start abusing the participants.
Well, he may have a point. When I see a discussion filled with ad hominem and points that go nowhere, I just lose it. Besides, he very rarely chooses to debate on topics on which I have a firmer grip than him. You win half the battle when the topic and time of discussion are your preferred choices.
Hell, it’s just that I’m plain NOT INTERESTED. The going-ons of the Sangh Parivar are given the lowest priority in my mind. I can ALWAYS find something more important to discuss than Hindutva and the Hindu psyche. And frankly, even if I don’t, I’d prefer to go to sleep. India doesn’t realise it, but it has no time for stuff like that. The ind_league group on Yahoo India indicates the uselessness of such things. It is failing miserably with threads lagging, polls flopping and messages about other stuff cluttering the space. And as for members, most have joined for the novelty of it. Only 2-3 members out of 11 post. It’s the same everywhere. When your stomach growls with hunger, religion doesn’t help, except in charity – and that won’t take you far. The only way to fill your stomach using religion is to make money out of it. That’s what ALL religious, social and political institutions do.
I know my priorities. I love my nation. I know the ways I can serve its needs. To tell that Hindutva is the way forward, is fascist. To think that they are the saviours of a religion which has thrived for centuries and survived the birth of half-a-dozen other religions without any deliberate effort, is arrogant beyond comprehension. My skills and interests are distinct and I prefer to use my energy on them. I would like to use them to help my nation in my way.
Then, as for debating styles, I prefer to write thoughtful pieces with restrained aggression. Then the other side can respond to it and so, it moves on. Short volleys of points and counter-points with the opposite sides shooting down people in mid-sentence – that’s not my style. My friend points out that he needs a proper mood to read the piece. Well… what can I say to that? So get into a verbal discussion and your mood is just right for it? Maybe, we should catch them in the wrong mood and THEN start a discussion.